We are all addicts
Ad-dict (adikt) To be or cause to be, a devotee, to do or use
Ad-dict-ed (a-dik-tid) Doing or using something as a habit or
you know anyone who is an obsessive thinker, over exercises,
worries continuously, always gossips, or talk’s non-stop? We
are addicted to constant drama, compulsive organizing, negative
thinking, perpetual ailments, and habitual daily use of everything
from diet soda to a pack of cigarettes. All accomplish the same outcome. Self-avoidance.
behaviors can be more harmful, like addiction to alcohol, tobacco, food,
shopping, and gambling. We practice every kind of drug
addiction, from prescription to the street variety. Some addictions result in
starving ourselves of food, goods or even love. As far as I can tell, there are
no shortages of habitual behaviors.
All of these actions help us escape living in
the moment and experiencing fully. We cleverly disguise our deeds
by not addressing them for what they are.
Affairs are another addiction. We
become involved outside of our partnership and overcome with a feeling that we must be with this other person no matter
what. We tell ourselves, “I need to see him or her so I’ll feel better.”
And for a moment, we do. Then desperation sets in and we will risk everything
for just “one more time.”
Why do we do it? What’s the answer? I’m not a
shrink but, I’m familiar with addictions and creating behaviors that don’t
serve us. One reason for these addictive activities is to keep us from feeling
pain, fear, disappointment, grief, sadness or discovering that we are unhappy. We
do it because we are afraid to look at our lives and admit that we need change
because we might have to do something outside of our comfort zone.
Recognizing our patterns can be a
positive catalyst for change that brings us closer to the truth of just who we
are, and of who we want to be. Addictions are a note to self- to take a closer