Five Behaviors That Help Us Heal
of us are unable to overcome our struggles with pain, anger,
and unresolved negative emotions. We develop behaviors that keep us from
healing and create anxiety such as: gossiping, judgment of ourselves and others,
the need to control, and negative self-talk. One way to begin the healing
process is to use conscious intent to
create new habits that replace the ones that don’t work. Applying conscious
intent means mindfully choosing an intention each day. For example, I release the need to judge myself and others. It
is the act of bringing a thought into the conscious moment and creating intent.
Our habit of gossiping is energetically connected to feeling powerless. When we
talk about others — exposing people’s secrets or spreading
rumors— it gives us a false sense of importance and shifts the focus away from
our own experiences. For most, there is no malicious intent in the habit. In fact, people are unaware of why they even want to engage in gossip.
way to shift that behavior is to begin your day with conscious intent by speaking positively about people, no matter
what others are saying. Each time
you find yourself encouraged to engage in gossip, respond with something
positive or redirect the conversation onto something else. You will empower
yourself and others by finding a positive aspect.
is a common behavior in which we all engage. Judgment is energetically
connected to the fear of being wrong. Judgment
is always about the person making the judgment, and never about the person
being judged. We are taught to judge
from an early age and frequently tell ourselves, “I am judging out of love.” To
transform the energy, use conscious intent and when you judge the behavior or
choices of another person, exhale, allowing the judgment it to lift from your
body. Replace the thought with something loving. Do it every time, no matter
what. No judging, even if you think that it’s out of love.
Anxiety keeps us from being in the
moment. Anxiety is energetically connected to fear of failure and loss. We
create energetic barriers by mentally projecting into the future, outcomes to
events that have not yet occurred. The result of creating anxiety is a feeling
of constant dread that paralyzes us. The habit is a way of affirming fearful, negative
results. Even when failure comes through someone else’s setback, like our
children or family members, we are certain that we are responsible. To shift this
pattern, use your intent and focus on
the moment you’re in. Feel your body connect to the ground while noticing
your heart beat and allowing your lungs to fill with air. Stay present and release the future.
stop us from experiencing life as it happens.
Control is energetically connected to low trust threshold. We don’t
believe things will work out without our intervention. Our habit to be in
control does not allow life to flow. We lock the energy up tight and take on
responsibilities of others exhausting ourselves and limiting those around us. Using conscious intent, affirm trust in the
process of life and allow others control even when you see
they may fail.
can be constantly debilitating. Negative
self-talk is energetically connected to an inability to stay in the seat of
our authentic self. The pattern keeps us from speaking our truth to others out
of fear that we are not good enough. To drive out the fearful voice and shift
the behavior, use conscious intent and at the first negative self-thought, stop. Visualize your mind crossing off
the thought as though written on a blackboard. Write or state a new positive
thought. Breathe out the old thought and
take its power away.
exercise can be done in five minutes or you can incorporate it with meditation
for longer periods. Find a comfortable place to sit or recline. Focus on breath
as it fills your lungs to capacity, and then simply let it go. Notice your body
relax with each exhale. Stay with your breath for several minutes. Bring your
focus from your mind’s eye to the center of your chest. Feel this area expand
and open like a flower. You may feel fluttering, tingling, or tightening. You
may even feel mild pain. Stay with your
breath while you focus on the heart center. Feel love flow from your heart out
into the world. Breathe that energy for a few moments.
Next, mentally speak your intent, “I
release fear, anger, resentment, sadness, etc,” or “I respond with love,
compassion, patience, understanding, etc.” Repeat your intent as you breathe.
Visualize a funnel of light that begins at your heart center and opens upward
toward the heavens. Affirm your connection with God, spirit, or divine self.
Breathe. When you’re ready, close your
hands and hold the energy within you. Know that you will carry your intention
throughout the day. If during your day you forget to practice your intention,
don’t worry, simply reaffirm your intention mentally and anchor the thought in